Taylor Swift's GQ Photoshoot Video

Here's a little "eye candy" for you.  Taylor Swift clip from her photoshoot with GQ Magazine.

3 things about seducing women you can only learn from experience ...

You can't learn everything about seduction from reading books,  watching videos,  or buying courses.  But that's what a lot of guys try to do.  They try to read their way to getting good with women and it just doesn't work like that. 

In this post,  I'm going to share 3 things that you really only can learn from experience.

1.  You can only learn how to read a woman's body language by actually being around her.

All the diagrams in the world can't really do what just a few minutes being around women can tell ya about body language.  In fact,  most of the time,  what you read about it will just confuse you.  It's far better to actually get out there and learn to read a woman's body language in the field.

Here's one of the many bad examples popular sites like WikiHow has about reading body language: http://www.wikihow.com/Read-Women's-Body-Language-for-Flirting

Go ahead and read it.  Do you feel like you actually learned anything useful?  Probably not.  And you'll know when you get out in the field.  Because you'll realize that just about everything you read on a site was useless and you don't know what to do.

2.  You can only learn how to work a group by actually working a group.

I have a lot of experience working small groups and you know what?  I feel lost when I read or hear about it.  Because it's something that you get a feel for.  It's not an intellectual exercise with steps that you memorize.

I remember hanging out once with a guy who'd just read a lot of stuff about group game.  And he swore he knew it all.  But when we approached a group?  He stood there like a statue and didn't say a damn thing.

You never want to be that guy and the only way to make sure you aren't?  Get out in the field.

3.  You can only learn how to bounce back from getting a cold response from a woman by working in the field.

This is something that stings and shocks most guys who are all book and no action.  They get shot down and they don't know how to bounce back from it.  Most of the time,  it means their entire night is done.

If you don't want that to happen to you?

Then you gotta learn how to deal with it in real time.  You have to learn how to shrug it off and actually move on over to the next woman.

Another one with Craig Ferguson flirting with an interviewee

You can have a lot of fun just sitting back and watching clips of Craig Ferguson flirting with all the hot actresses that used to come on his show.  Here's another one with Kate Mara.

Why I don't do magic tricks to try to seduce women ...

Okay so if you were to go back maybe 10-12 years ago,  the top "seduction" guys posting stuff online were mostly wannabe performers of some kind.  And for some odd reason,  a lot of 'em were into magic.  You know ... the make a card appear and disappear kind?

So a lot of guys got this idea that,  in order to get good at seduction,  they had to go out and become magicians themselves.

Only thing is ...

Most of 'em can't do magic.

And neither can I.

That's never been much of a problem for me.

Wanna know why?

I never tried to use magic tricks as a way to seduce women.  Why would I?  I can't make cards disappear.  I can't pull stuff from a hat.  And I certainly can't levitate.

Cool thing is,  you don't need to know magic to seduce a woman.

Most guys who are genuinely good at getting women are NOT magicians.

You have to know yourself.

And know what you are good at.

Myself?

I'm good at making conversation.

So that's kind of "my thing" and I don't stray too far from it.

What are you good at and how can you use that to get better with women?  Because,  let's be honest here ... most of us aren't magicians nor do we want to be magicians.

Thankfully ...

It's not like every woman in the world's looking for David Copperfield.

Sarah Shahi looking sexy for GQ ...

Hey ...

If you need any inspiration for learning more about what female attraction secrets really work,  this video with Sarah Shahi might do the trick.  Sure,  you might not meet her when you go out.  But what if you meet a woman who looks a lot like her?  Would you know what to do?  Would you know what to say?

Here's the video:

4 Simple conversation starters you can use right now ...

Let's be real about something.  Most guys make the act of talking to a woman way harder than it should ever be.  They wait and wait and wait.  Hoping that one day they'll come across some sort of magical line that they can use that'll guarantee they can get any woman they want.  Of course,  that kind of a line doesn't exist.  And it doesn't need to exist.  It would only need to exist if talking to a woman was on par with alchemy.  And it's not.

So we're going to look at 4 simple conversation starters that you can use right now.

They're going to be simple.  And they might not immediately impress guys who are still convinced that talking to a woman is like rocket science.

But the fact that they are so basic and simple is a good thing.

It means you DON'T have to learn for years what to do.  You can go out tonight and have conversation at your fingertips.

First conversation starter is:

Hi!

Yeah.  This is actually my favorite one.  And it's the one I "go to" most often.  I know.  It's probably "disappointing" if you were hoping for some kind of wicked NLP pattern.

But guess what?

Saying Hi is the easiest way to get conversation started.  It's proven.  It works.  And even most guys who go out at first with their book filled with lines eventually come full circle to the realization that Hi was all they ever really needed.

Why wait till you get to that point?

Why not just start there?

Say Hi.

See what happens.

The Second conversation starter is:

Talk about your surroundings.

Wherever you are,  you have surroundings.  And there's always something to talk about.  Even if it comes across as mundane.  Even if it's something you think won't impress.

It doesn't matter.

The point is just to get her talking.  Say you are standing in line somewhere and they've got background music playing.  Use that to start a conversation.  Ask her what the song is.  Or make a funny comment about it.

I've been in line at supermarkets and used whatever was on the cover of one of those celebrity gossip magazines to start a conversation with a woman in front or behind me.

There's always something.

So use it.

The Third conversation starter is:

Give her a meaningful but not obvious compliment.

What do I mean by this?  And don't most so-called PUA guys online say you should never compliment a woman?

Ha!

What do they know?

Most women get shallow compliments from guys.  Things like,  "You're pretty,"  and whatever.  So those kinds of compliments kind of don't land well.  But?  If you spot something about her that most guys wouldn't notice and use that to compliment her?

It means something.

And it lands.

I was in line at a club.  And this woman in front of me had this hemp bracelet on her wrist.  I used that to compliment her and start the conversation.

Turns out ... she made it.

And it made her day to get complimented on it.

When we went in?

We started hanging out.  And of course,  I ended up with her number.  The same can happen for you.  Don't be like most guys.  And don't be like those so-called PUAs who just don't know what they don't know.

Make compliments meaningful and they'll kick-start a conversation.

Almost every single time.

Finally,  the Fourth conversation starter is ...

The casual soft bump.

I hate to admit that I do this from time to time.  But hey ... sometimes you are just "out" of ideas,  right?  A very soft bump will start a conversation.  Just don't bump her in the wrong areas,  if you know what I mean.

It's usually best used in a crowded spot or in a line.

And of course,  it has to be non-threatening.

But sometimes,  that's all you got and guess what?  It still works!

Hope this helped.  Starting conversation ain't rocket science.  Some of the best there are at talking to women are far from being Einstein.  So if they can do it,  why can't you?

Craig Ferguson flirting with Alice Eve ...

Craig Ferguson's a funny guy.  I'm not big on watching late-night talk shows.  His was one I'd catch if I was up late and wanted to watch something a little bit funny.  One thing about Craig is ... he can't help but to flirt with some of the actresses that came on his show.  And really who could blame him.

Watch this one:

It's a good example of being funny without acting like a complete clown.  Now,  obviously,  he wasn't trying to hook up with her.  Still,  if you want to see a decent example of how to use a little humor without coming off like a jester,  it's worth watching.